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Julie Lythcott-Haims
Lythcott-Haims in 2023
Member of the Palo Alto City Council
Incumbent
Assumed office
January 9, 2023
Personal details
Born1967 (age 56–57)
Lagos, Nigeria
Political partyDemocratic
EducationStanford University (BA)
Harvard University (JD)
California College of the Arts (MFA)

Julie Lythcott-Haims is an American educator, author, and politician. She has written three non-fiction books: How to Raise an Adult, on parenting; Real American, a memoir; and Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. She served as dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising at Stanford University. She is a member of the Palo Alto city council.

Early life

Lythcott-Haims was born in Lagos, Nigeria in 1967 and moved with her parents to the United States in 1969.[1] Her father, George Ignatius Lythcott, was a pediatrician, a professor at Columbia University, the Edward Jenner Professor of Public Health at UW Madison and served as Assistant Surgeon General under President Jimmy Carter.[2] Her mother, Jean Snookes, is a retired teacher and professor of education at Columbia University Teachers College.[3]

Lythcott-Haims grew up in small towns in New York, Wisconsin, and Virginia.[4] She earned her Bachelor of Arts from Stanford University.[1] She also earned a Juris Doctor degree from Harvard Law School, and a Master of Fine Arts in writing from California College of the Arts.[5]

Career

University administrator

Lythcott-Haims is the former dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising, and former associate vice provost for undergraduate education at Stanford University. While at Stanford, she was the 2010 winner of the Dinkelspiel Award for contributions to undergraduate education.[6] She held various positions with the university for 14 years until leaving in 2012. At the time, the stated reason for leaving Stanford was her plan to pursue an MFA degree.[6] However, in 2024, Lythcott-Haims confirmed she resigned her position at Stanford in 2012 after an "inappropriate" relationship with a student.[7]

Author

Lythcott-Haims' 2015 book, How to Raise an Adult, was a New York Times best-seller on the education list.[8][9] The book cautions parents against micromanaging, or helicopter parenting their children. It argues that this parenting style prevents them from developing independence and resilience as adults and can negatively impact their mental health.[10][1] A review in the Chicago Tribune said: "Her deep compassion for the young people enduring the endemic stress of [the college admissions] process shines through and her advice about broadening the mindset of applicants — and parents — is solid. But this is the weakest part of a strong book, with the author at times relying more on opinion than fact when it comes to the specifics of college admission, such as testing. Lythcott-Haims' advice is most valuable when it gets down to the brass tacks of how to cultivate a parenting style that produces a resilient, resourceful grownup."[11]

Her 2017 memoir, Real American, describes coming to terms with her racial identity.[12] Her father was a prominent African American physician, her mother white and British, and she was the only non-white student in her high school graduating class.[12] The New York Times review said: “Her feelings metamorphose into palpable anger and resentment as she reaches adulthood, and she finally begins to grasp the perversity of a system that tries to undermine Black Americans from the moment they arrive in the world.” The reviewer said Real American takes the reader on a journey from the author's initial feelings of self-loathing because of her racial makeup to a sense of self-worth. “By allowing us to witness a woman coming to terms with herself, and finding nothing but pride and love there, she offers a blueprint for how others might try to do the same.”[13] Real American won the 2018 PEN Oakland Josephine Miles Literary Award.[14][1]

Lythcott-Haims' 2021 book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, presents her insights and strategies on living a successful adult life for young people entering adulthood. It discusses adult relationships, maintaining physical and mental health, managing money, and other adult responsibilities.[1]

Politics

In 2008, Lythcott-Haims was chosen as a delegate to the Democratic National Convention from California's 14th congressional district for Barack Obama.[15]

In November 2022, Lythcott-Haims was elected to the Palo Alto city council.[16]

In 2023, Lythcott-Haims announced her candidacy for California's 16th congressional district in the 2024 United States House of Representatives elections.[17] In the nonpartisan primary on March 5, 2024, she finished in eighth place, thereby failing to reach the general election.[18]

Relationship with student

In July 2024, a Stanford alumna wrote on Autostraddle alleging that Lythcott-Haims began an affair with her when she was a 22-year-old senior student and continued after her graduation in 2011.[19] The alumna stated that her mother anonymously complained to the university, and that Lythcott-Haims left Stanford shortly thereafter.[7]

Although such relationships were discouraged at the time, they were not forbidden by any rules:

It wasn't until 2013, a year after Lythcott-Haims left Stanford, that university officials changed campus policy... to prohibit staff members — 'including deans' — from having such relationships with students, because of their 'broad influence or authority over students and their experience.'[19]

The day after the alumna wrote her article, Lythcott-Haims confirmed to Palo Alto Weekly in a statement that the article was about her and stated "a relationship with a student was inappropriate when it happened 13 years ago, and it would be inappropriate now." She also stated that the relationship ended after a year, and she resigned from her position at Stanford. In the statement, Lythcott-Haims apologized to the alumna, Stanford staff and students, and her family.[7]

Personal life

Lythcott-Haims has two adult children and is married to Dan Lythcott-Haims.[4][5] She lives in Palo Alto, California.[5]

Bibliography

  • How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success. Henry Holt & Co. 2015. ISBN 9781627791779.
  • Real American: A Memoir. Henry Holt & Co. 2017. ISBN 9781250137746.
  • Your Turn: How to Be an Adult. Henry Holt & Co. 2021. ISBN 9781250137777.
  • Writing Memoir - Foreword. Abrams Noterie. 2020. ISBN 9781419741388.

References

  1. ^ a b c d e Davies, Dave (April 19, 2021). "Author Gives Advice For Young Adults And Reflects On Growing Up Black In A White World". NPR. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  2. ^ Saxon, Wolfgang (October 11, 1995). "George Lythcott, 77, Pediatrician, Dean and Health Official". NY Times. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  3. ^ Schwartz, Frank (January 18, 1995). "An Education Miracle?". Education Week. Retrieved July 3, 2021.
  4. ^ a b Stevens, Heidi (November 10, 2017). "'I tried to be what white people valued' – a searing memoir of growing up biracial". Chicago Tribune. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  5. ^ a b c Katz, Leslie (January 2, 2018). "Lythcott-Haims' 'Real American' an evocative memoir". San Francisco Examiner. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  6. ^ a b Chesley, Kate (March 28, 2012). "Lythcott-Haims stepping down as dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising". News Stanford. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  7. ^ a b c Sheyner, Gennady (July 11, 2024). "Stanford alum details affair with 'celebrity' dean, who is now Palo Alto City Council member". Palo Alto Weekly.
  8. ^ "Education Books – Best Sellers – Books – Oct. 2, 2016". The New York Times. October 2, 2016. ISSN 0362-4331. Retrieved July 29, 2021.
  9. ^ Murphy Jr., Bill (December 3, 2015). "Want to Raise Successful Kids? A Former Stanford Dean Says Please Stop Doing This". Inc. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  10. ^ Brown, Emma (October 16, 2015). "Former Stanford dean explains why helicopter parenting is ruining a generation of children". Washington Post. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  11. ^ Vandevelde, Christine (June 11, 2015). "Review: 'How to Raise an Adult' by Julie Lythcott-Haims". Chicago Tribune. Retrieved July 25, 2021.
  12. ^ a b Henderson, Catherine (November 14, 2017). "California author talks growing up biracial in America at ETHS event". Daily Northwestern. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  13. ^ Wortham, Jenna (November 17, 2017). "A Journey of Belonging". The New York Times. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  14. ^ Doyle, Laurie Ann (February 8, 2019). "From One World to the Next: Talking with Julie Lythcott-Haims". The Rumpus. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  15. ^ Ostrom, Mary Anne (August 17, 2008). "Six Silicon Valley convention delegates political journeys". The Mercury News. Retrieved June 7, 2021.
  16. ^ Toledo, Aldo (November 8, 2022). "Palo Alto: Veenker, Lauing and Lythcott-Haims win place on city council". Mercury News. Retrieved November 15, 2022.
  17. ^ Hase, Grace (December 7, 2023). "Palo Alto Councilmember Julie Lythcott-Haims, tech entrepreneur Peter Dixon announce bids for U.S. Rep. Anna Eshoo's congressional seat". The Mercury News. Retrieved December 20, 2023.
  18. ^ "California 16th Congressional District Primary Election Results". The New York Times. March 5, 2024.
  19. ^ a b Asimov, Nanette (July 12, 2024). "Palo Alto politician admits to affair with student when she was a star Stanford dean". San Francisco Chronicle. Retrieved August 1, 2024.
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